part time co- sleeping? - Page 2

littlemisscant · #9 (**permalink**) 12-02-2008, 07:10 PM

With my first I didn't co-sleep at all.
She slept in her own room by herself pretty much from day 1.
With my second he slept in his bassinet beside my bed until he moved into his crib (which was in my room) but I was nursing him so really I would pull him into bed with me.
Nurse him and we would both fall asleep then when I woke up I would put him back into his own bed.
Hind sight I wish I had of dragged my lazy butt out of bed and nursed him in a chair then put him back into his bed instead of letting him sleep in ours.
I loved the cuddle time but we finally just got him to sleep in his own room by himself and the child just turned 4!!
With our third we didn't co-sleep at all .
Honestly, it's really what works best with you and with your family.
Does it bother you to have her in your room?

beatlemom82 · #10 (**permalink**) 12-02-2008, 08:23 PM

Originally Posted by Unregistered

I think that this is mostly a personal choice really. I am a mom of a 3 year old, and from experience (my nephew slept with his mother when his parents separated) I knew that when your child sleeps with you, it becomes a habit, and that habit is really hard to break. Especially when nobody wants to fight with their child or nephew in the middle of the night. I dont think that there is such a thing as part time co-sleeping because children learn quickly that it is acceptable, and will think that it is ok all of the time. I dont really mean to say what you are doing is wrong, because I too with my son thought it wouldnt hurt if every now and then my son would hop into bed with me, especially if my husband was away at work( he works out of the country). It then turned into a full time thing, and when the husband comes home....it makes it a little difficult to have "quality" time with eachother. After realizing how difficult it is to sleep between my husband and my 3 year old, I decided that this definately had to stop! So after weeks of fighting with my son in the middle of the night and lots of sleepless nights, he will now sleep in his bed full time all by himself. We do 'compromise' with him a little bit and will lay down with him in his bed for a little bit, but now with him being older and much bigger, I know for sure that I will not go back to the way it was before. Just a little food for thought.

thanks, i never though about it beyond right now. because sometimes its soo hard to wake up when she is hungry, you know. its easier sometimes cause she is right there.

but you do bring up good points. i really dont want her to get used to sleeping with us.

PeytonsMama · #11 (**permalink**) 12-14-2008, 03:29 PM

Originally Posted by littlemisscant

With my first I didn't co-sleep at all.
She slept in her own room by herself pretty much from day 1.
With my second he slept in his bassinet beside my bed until he moved into his crib (which was in my room) but I was nursing him so really I would pull him into bed with me.
Nurse him and we would both fall asleep then when I woke up I would put him back into his own bed.
Hind sight I wish I had of dragged my lazy butt out of bed and nursed him in a chair then put him back into his bed instead of letting him sleep in ours.
I loved the cuddle time but we finally just got him to sleep in his own room by himself and the child just turned 4!!
With our third we didn't co-sleep at all .
Honestly, it's really what works best with you and with your family.
Does it bother you to have her in your room?

Personally I love having her in my room. Of course mine is only 2 1/2 months old too lol. We do co-sleep sometimes but most of the time she sleeps in her bassinet now. I think it was more of an adjustment for me than for her because she's so young. Mostly she only sleeps with me now on the nights when she has tummy ache or something else is wrong that she can't vocalize and having mommy hold her is comforting. There is the occasional night however when I just don't want to let her go too and so she'll sleep with me then.

Right now my plan for when she is bigger, and has her own bed instead of a crib, is to lay down with her in her room (on those nights when she needs her mommy for comfort because she's sick or something) and then move to my room once she's asleep. How that plan may change is up for grabs though since that's a ways off lol.

Basically I just wing it and do what feels right for us on any given night.

destineenevaehncody · #12 (**permalink**) 01-29-2009, 12:57 PM

i am the mother of an almost 3 year old and we sleep together partly because i like the bond and shes scared to sleep alone...... i enjoy the company and the natural alarm clock!!!!!

#13 (**permalink**) 01-31-2009, 04:39 PM

I agree that part-time co-sleeping is bound to turn into full-time, thats what happened with us. My husband works nights though, so I enjoy the company. If you want information, there's tons out both for and against co-sleeping, I really think it all depends on what you're comfortable with and what works for your family.

Happy Mommy · #14 (**permalink**) 02-06-2009, 08:51 PM

I agree that it's all up to the individual family. When our son was a newborn, I would always start the night out with him sleeping in his bassinet, but after his middle of the night nursing, he'd end up in the bed with us. When he moved to his crib, I'd still bring him in our bed around 4 or 5 in the morning when he'd wake up, so that he'd go back to sleep. When he was about 9 months, we stopped it all together. I still take a nap with him occasionally, but realize that it's for the best.

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babysnests · #15 (**permalink**) 03-22-2009, 11:49 PM

at the moment we have our baby in the same room but sleeping in a crib. we are almost ready to move the baby furniture cribs to the nursery but haven't tried it yet.