Friends through thick and thin.

lw8843 · #1 (**permalink**) 04-28-2009, 06:02 AM

You all asked for it so here we go a new thread.

Kris · #2 (**permalink**) 04-28-2009, 07:04 AM

Yeah! Thanks Laura!

lw8843 · #3 (**permalink**) 04-28-2009, 07:07 AM

So do you all ever get the feeling we're still being "watched" over here? I do and I am not sure if I am just crazy or not?

lw8843 · #4 (**permalink**) 04-28-2009, 07:08 AM

So Kriss do you have your appointment set up yet for this week?

SunflowerKids · #5 (**permalink**) 04-28-2009, 07:14 AM

Good job, Laura.

Woooo, whooooo, I found you all!

I hadn't really gotten that feeling, Laura, but you guys are more on MM than I am. Except for that interaction with Chell over IVF, I have never gone back (not even to lurk). Just a chapter in my life (the miscarriage) that I am ready to close and move on from.

If I get pregnant again, I don't want the "bad karma" from over there to follow me around.

I'm kooky that way!!!

lw8843 · #6 (**permalink**) 04-28-2009, 07:20 AM

Val I can understand that. I probably would ahve left as well but for some strang reason I jsut feel as thought I am helping people by staying. Maybe I'm not but I know someone who just lost their baby on there and she was so concerned with letting me know how she was doing she made her DH reply to an pm I had sent her just checking on her. He told me I have helped her more then even he can and he was very greatful she had someone like me. I can't help but think how if I leave that leaves only you know who there to "help" people. And that scares me.

SunflowerKids · #7 (**permalink**) 04-28-2009, 07:27 AM

Laura,

I hear you. And, I do know what you mean. I did feel bad leaving (b/c I was the ectopic pregnancy mommy, the in vitro mommy, the blighted ovum mommy) b/c I have had a lot of pregnancy mishaps and (the moderator, can't remember her name) thanked me so much for "helping" out other ladies.

But in the end, I realized that it isn't my job to help other people. Only to help myself. And, after all the stuff that went down between me an the other gals in January, I realized that I would not hang with people like that in real life so why subject myself to it in on-line life?!!!

I look at where you know who is with TTC and the miscarriage (we miscarried w/in days of each other) and I see how much more I have healed and processed. I think that I might have still been stuck in a different place if I hadn't left when I did.

I think that you might feel differently when that new baby comes. You are going to have your hands full with a 2-year old and a newborn, plus talking with us (LOL) and keeping up your blog (LOL even louder, I'm teasing you!) and you may find that you are in a new place where you want to expend what little energy you have on happy, positive things. Just my thoughts. I could be totally off base, here!

lw8843 · #8 (**permalink**) 04-28-2009, 07:38 AM

No Val I am sure you are right as I know once the baby comes my hands are soo going to be tied. However in the mean time I feel it's where I have been lead to be. I kind of feel it's one "good" thing that came from my Miscarriages is that I could try and help others though such a hard time. Another good thing that came from them was meeting you ladies. I really don't know what I would do without you all. I keep praying that Renee will feel up to coming back full time soon. Like that full time like it's a job to be here or something..lol