That is a good attitude. I didnt want anything at first, but then I decided that since I supported him through most of our 8 yrs together that he could do his part. He wants to see her, he can pay for her. It isnt that money really matters like that, but I cant do it all.

Hi Jenn,

Welcome! I been sick for a bit and am hopefully going to hope I will be getting better that's why I hadn't been posting too much lately.

My son's father pays child support which I'm lucky he does that at his own will!

It's hard when your sick forcing yourself to get up early to go wait in the cold chilly weather! When all you want to do is sleep!

The meds I was taking trying to help me sleep made me so zonked that i heard my alarm clock my mind was telling me 'time to get up! but my body wasn't moving then before i knew it I jolted wide awake going omg! what am i still doing in bed ?

I check at my phone and go oops i made brendan miss his bus ! Said brendan time to get ready so you can get to school it will be late but will have to do so he was late to school but still made it to do his 'work!

I have what you call the 'supposed virus' that turned almost into pneumonia!

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Traci
Loving Single Mommy to Lovable Brendan and a proud cat owner to Wild Mr Blackie
Missing & loving my heaven babies Alizah 6/2002 and Trey 2/03

I kind of have a different situation. I've never been married and the father really wants to be a part of our daughter's life, but we're not in a relationship and never have been. I know that sounds kind of bad on my part, but it's not like that. (Of course, you can never make people believe that.) He's great and definately there emotionally, but we're both college students with no steady income... I'm kind of freaking out...

marleysmomma,

Welcome and how old is your daughter ? It's great that your daughter father wants to be part of her life wish my son father would. Do you have family close by , do rent an apartment ?

Do you have a job?

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Traci
Loving Single Mommy to Lovable Brendan and a proud cat owner to Wild Mr Blackie
Missing & loving my heaven babies Alizah 6/2002 and Trey 2/03

MommatoMaddie ; believe it or not, you are getting more money from the daddy than I ever got - I was a single mother to 3 sons, since my youngest was 15 months - they are 27, 25, and 22 now.

I went through the courts and the maintenance was set at $375.00 per MONTH, for 3 children - that is what I got from their daddy - $375.00 for all 3 put together - other than that, I had to fend for myself. My guys were in soccer (travelling), music lessons, volleyball teams (travelling), football, rugby, and always wore Nike runners - don't ask me how I did it, but I did it - and my ex had the nerve, when his brother got married, he "ordered" me to purchase 3 pc. suits for each son, so they would have appropriate attire to wear to their uncles wedding. Some nerve I thought. But, I guess that is one of the reasons I left him - inconsiderate, thoughtless, selfish, bully, jerk, etc................ My guys were the centre of my universe, and I did whatever needed to be done to make things work out for them, so they could be proud of themselves, and their mother, who raised them. Never, did I define my sons as "from a single parent home". When they started school, I always requested that a copy of their report card be mailed to their father, who lived out of town, so he could keep an eye on things as well. The teachers were not aware that I was a single parent, and never did I use that as an excuse, or reason that they could not be apart of some activity. It can be done - my guys were also on the honor roll, Captain of the Football team, and were team members of travelling sports teams - and all graduated, with 2 diplomas. Never give up on your children - you can do this girls - and provide a peaceful home, without the nasty, nagging, pressure, crap that their dad would have done to them. Yep, I think all of us have some underlying resentment, towards the man who fathered our children. You have to focus on providing your children with the most positive experience in life, and NEVER blast their parent when your child is in your space.

Hey Justy,
never knew you were a single mom when your kids were little that is terrible amount the court set.

I was lucky enough to have arrangement with my ex for him to give me a good amount of money per month .

People assume they may get more because of the 'wages' they make but sadly with courts they end up getting less.

which is a pita for people especially like you with 3 children 375 per month that is ridiciolous.

but i also heard but not for sure if i remember correctly that if you get child support through the goverment get 'remarried' you lose your child and i say once a father is a father even though he's not in the life might as well pay for his child every month' even if he gets a step daddy.

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Traci
Loving Single Mommy to Lovable Brendan and a proud cat owner to Wild Mr Blackie
Missing & loving my heaven babies Alizah 6/2002 and Trey 2/03