Today I found this board because I was looking for support. I'm going through my second miscarriage today and feel such a range of emotions I hardly know what do to to get through my day. I do wish that there were other posts here, but perhaps other women with this loss have found it hard to write too. So, I will be the first, and maybe more will write soon.

My first loss was in June 2008. I was at 12 weeks. I had already chosen a name and was calling my baby Elijah. My 31/2 year old daughter and my husband and I were so excited to be growing our family again. It was an expected pregnancy. I was so shocked when I miscarried and I went through an awful cycle of stages of grieving that people go through with a loss of a loved one.

In October my immediate family held a small memorial for my son and we planted a tree and made a garden around it. I was begining to feel closure and healing.

Then just two weeks ago I became pregnant again. I was really only pregnant for about 2 weeks (but they count since the first day of the last period so it's termed as 6 weeks...). Anyway, I was so afraid that it would happen again but I was calm and accepting too.

Now today, I awoke to find blood and I know this time exactly what that means. It's not implantation bleeding. My whole body doesn't feel pregnant anymore. I have cramps like a heavy menstral cycle and there is a lot of blood.

I feel so sad.

The worst part is feeling like I need to take some sort of action. Other sites have said I"m supposed to try to collect any tissue that I can. Do you know how hard that is to do? Emotionally and physically? But it will help to have something to be able to test. Do I need to test now or later? I don't know. That's the hard part, trying to be proactive while I feel so sad and angry.

Well, that's my post for today Ladies.

I hope that others who have gone through this before will also feel comfortable enough to share so we can support one another through this journey.

hi Im so sorry 2 hear that your going through such a terrible time.Ive been in your situation 4 times. Ive had 3 miscarriage and 1 etopic i taught id never have the baby i longed for but eventually myself and my husband were blessed with a beautiful baby girl. She also gave us a terrible fright by arriving 2 months early but thankfully she was perfectly healthy. My heart goes out 2 u and i felt i had 2 reply 2 your post because i suffered my last micarriage on 2 nov at 11 weeks. The only thing i can say 2 u is talk 2 your friends and family about how u feel it really does help as for collecting the embryo for testing no one can make that decision but u,your going through a hard enough time as it is but please god next time round u will be blessed with a beautiful bundle. best of luck for the future i truly hope every thing works out for u.

{{hugs}} my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this time!!

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I just read your post, and I had to write a small note of condolescence. Although I have never experienced a Miscarriage, my heart was touched, by your comments. I just wanted to reach out, and tell you how very sad I am for you.

I came to this post today- to see about any Loss/Support for Single Moms, who are experiencing Empty Nest. My beautiful 3 sons, are all grown up, and are so busy with their own lives, and I am "grieving" the loss of their laughter, hugs, messy bathroom, cooking for them, hearing their voices - and I am deeply mourning the little ones I had at one time. Sorry to sound so selfish, but I am really missing my little rambuncious brood right now, of course, I realized they would all grow up, and leave home, but it does touch you when you experience the Empty Nest Stage.

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Thank you so much for your thoughts and prayers.Please pray for a sucessful pregnancy for me and my husband in 2009.I think it might be our last attempt because every loss gets harder and i dont think i can take another one. Take care,god bless.Liberty

dont give up trying it took me and my husband five miscariages and an eptopic pregnancy before we finally were able to pass the three month mark and the loss is hard believe me i know think of it like this yes you miscarried and its hell but keep ur mind set on this one was hard for me to hear but if each of those babies had survived they would have would have so many problems some of which might have kept them in pain there whole life second just keep the picture in ur mind of the day that ur baby comes thats healthy

Sorry to hear about your second miscarriage. I had a second miscarriage on Jan 3, and I know what you are going through. My prayers are with you. I waited over two years to try again after my first miscarriage. It's heartbreaking. It's also encouraging to hear the stories of women who have gone on to have healthy babies after 2 or more loses. This time my husband and I will try again sooner, and I hope that it will be successful.

I just want you to know there is hope, I lost my first baby to a missed miscarriage. It was one of the worse experiences of my life, the emotional pain I felt was so intense I thought it was never going to ease. We fell pregnant again 7 months later but again that was not meant to be, we lost the second baby on my husbands birthday and our 15th anniversary. Again I thought life was never going to be the same again. I decided I could not go through that again and I started using contraception, but some things are meant to be.....
I am now 30 weeks pregnant with our son!!! and Im so glad my contraception failed.
I wanted to share my story to show everyone there is hope, Im an example of that.

My thoughts go out to everyone who is going through the pain of a miscarriage, and I hope that your stories end as happily as my own.