I'm scared to death to deliver. I'm hoping to do it vaginally. This is my first born, and I've never been in the hospital or had stitches for anything. neverless been in a lot of pain. I'm scared to death on what to expect. I have support telling me what to expect because of the people around me. My mom had 3 vagainal and my sister had 2 c-section but honestly girls I'm freaking out. Anyone else in my boat?

Hi Rebecca,
I'm a mom who has BTDT(Been There Done That) so I was wondering are you due soon ?

Labor and Deliveries can vary to be very easy to very tough. When the labor and delivery time comes you forget about being scared, you turn excited, or your too sore to be scared because it's like you know when you feel the cramps going I think it's time and you will share with people hey I am heading to the hospital we are going to have a baby!

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Traci
Loving Single Mommy to Lovable Brendan and a proud cat owner to Wild Mr Blackie
Missing & loving my heaven babies Alizah 6/2002 and Trey 2/03

L&D is painful and tough, don't let anyone try to tell you it isn't. Even if you get pain meds, like an epidural, it doesn't mean it will be easy. Pushing out a baby when you can't feel anything can be harder than when you can! I have had every birth you can name. It is really the mind frame you go in with. If you are positive then while it will be hard, you will be able to get through it. Think about how long pregnancy has lasted, and know that as soon as the baby is born the first days, weeks, months and even years will FLY by. Remember that while you are in labor. Labor may last a few hours, or even several hours, or a day or two, but it does end quickly! Read as much as you can before the big day and be prepared. Look into making a birth plan so you feel like you have some control, but remember that just because you have the plan and you give it to your doctors it doesn't mean something won't happen that will make you deter from it. Be prepared for a c-section in case you need it for some reason, but think positive. Let us know if you have any specific questions!

Here is a link for birth plans! Pregnancy and Baby: Birth plan creator

Pregnancy and Baby: Birth plans: Taking a new look

It can be daunting forst time around, and being a mom of 4 children I know only too well the fear that can be felt prior to giving birth. However it doesn't have to be all bad - accept that it is going to happen one way or another and it s only a very very small fraction out of a year of your life. Learn some relaxation, either go to classes or buy some CDs these are definate must. Read up on birth. Write a birth plan, get other half on side too ... explain to your partner what you want and dont want.

Above all - just enjoy every minute of every day.

Good luck

Ok hun dont be scared
honestly
this may sound worse than what i mean it to be
but with my 1st i was in labour for about 24 hrs
the last 9 or so i had an epidural (heaven) hehehe
but I honestly cant remember to much cause i was in pain
i know that sounds bad but you'll forget everything
with my second I found out that if you fight off nurses who want to stick you with iv's
and stay in the shower it helps
as well as breathing i thought it was Crap... but if u inhale and breath out really hard that helped me
its hard to remember anything while in labour but try not to tense up
and get people to rub your back
and make sure its more than one person so they can take shifts lol
(sorry mom, mitch and lovette)
hope that helps
oh and the time goes by so fast
its like 3pm and next thing u know u look at the clock and its 930pm

Well im a first time mommy im 15, due july 28th, and im so scared
of having the baby, idk how my body will be able to handle it!
theres no way id have it natural but im so scared something will go
wrong.. any words of comfort?

Honestly, I think being scared is totally normal to be feeling!!
I have had 3 children.
The last two without drugs
(not my choice)
With my oldest I was in labor for 12 1/2 hours.
With my middle one my time cut down to 3 hours 8 minutes.
With my third it was 1 1/2 hours and the stinker was born in an elevator.
I did hurt like hell but once the baby is out it doesn't hurt as badly as it did when you were pushing.
Make sure you get some EPO (evening primerose oil) and take two caplets vaginally the last month of your pregnancy.
I know it sounds weird but it "softens" everything up and you won't tear.
You still have a ways to go so make sure that you make a birth plan that works for you!
{{hugs}} now...enjoy being pregnant!
Before you know it the baby will be here!

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I totally agree with the above posts!
It's completely normal to be afraid, and the best way to approach it is to go in with a positive attitude! Be as informed as you can! I also did the EPO vaginally, and mind you my son was 4 weeks early...I had no tearing. I was in labour for a total of 9 days, and only got the epidural 28 minutes before my son was born! I personally felt that for me, labour and delivery were a breaze! I'm looking forward to doing it again. In hindsight, I definitly could have done without it, and will have my next without...but that's besides the point. Breathing helps tremendously. Good luck!!